There is so much in this part of us that stays unknown, unexplored, hidden and shamed. Shamed by society, by family, by lovers, by culture and religion, and often by ourselves.
We carry our sex with us every day, and yet many of us have never truly met it. Never looked without judgement. Never named its parts with tenderness. Never listened to what it holds.
This is an invitation to begin. To come into connection, or perhaps connection for the very first time, with your Yoni/Vulva or your Lingam/Penis, on a somatic, anatomical, energetic and emotional level. To see, to name, to honour, to forgive, and to begin a new relationship with this tender, precious, magical and powerful portal.
A journey to rewrite the story.
A note from Elaine
For as long as I can remember, I have been struck by how little we are taught to know the very part of us that holds so much of our aliveness.
I created this journey because I have seen, again and again, what becomes possible when we turn towards this part of us with tenderness instead of judgement. When we look, name, honour and forgive, and let ourselves feel the grief and the joy and the pleasure that has been waiting to be acknowledged.
Over the years, in festivals, in online gatherings, in one to one work, and across the last decade of Master Your Pleasure, I have watched people meet their sex, sometimes for the very first time, and begin to come home to themselves. For some it is an initiation. For others, the deepening of a love already there.
My hope is simply that you leave with more connection, more awareness, and the beginning of a new relationship with this precious and powerful part of you.
I would love to welcome you.
Elaine
What this journey is
This is a four-week online journey of reconnection to our sex, in all its parts, and all its history of perhaps joy and perhaps pain. It is not about performance or chasing peak experiences. It is about coming into full embodiment of your sex as an essential part of your aliveness and your wholeness.
The journey is a rainbow of lecture, education, meditation and optional self-touch, something you are always free to explore later, on your own, after the session, with a crucial dash of somatic, energetic and emotional rewiring.
This is primarily a solo journey. You take part only to the level that feels true for you in the moment, and there is nothing you have to do. At times you will be offered the chance to share and reflect with others in small breakout groups. All optional touch and exploration happens off camera, always. You watch your own boundaries, you honour yourself, and you are free to pause, to change your mind, or to ask for support at any time.
The journey moves through five movements
1. Meet
Come into connection.
We begin with a somatic connection meditation that builds relationship with the body, before we ever turn to the anatomy. Connection first, always.
2. Know
Learn your anatomy and structure.
Explore the parts of the Yoni/Vulva and the Lingam/Penis in a way that deepens connection and reveals what these parts of us are truly capable of in sensation and pleasure.
3. Touch
Learn touch and massage.
Understand and witness technique, relaxation, de-armouring, pleasure and arousal, always returning to presence as the true foundation. Demonstrated on an anatomical model.
4. Release
Meet what is held here.
Make space for the history the body carries, and for the possibility of letting go of old pain, and receiving an imprint of being honoured instead.
5. Renew
Begin a new relationship. A ritual invitation to rewrite the story, and to rebirth your sex into a new reality.
What's the Structure?
The journey unfolds in two parts. Each part is two sessions, and both parts follow the same arc.
Session one - A somatic connection meditation to build relationship with the body, followed by anatomy and structure, explored in a way that deepens connection and reveals what these parts of us are capable of in sensation and pleasure.
Session two - Explanation and demonstration of optional touch and massage technique, always returning to presence as the true foundation. Elaine demonstrates with an anatomical model.
Part One - Yoni/Vulva
Session One: Wed 26 August
Part One - Yoni/Vulva
Session Two: Wed 2 September
Part Two - Lingam/Penis
Session One: Wed 9 September
Part Two - Lingam/Penis
Session Two: Wed 16 September
Wednesday evenings, 6:30 - 8:30 pm UK / 7:30 - 9:30 pm CET.
All sessions are recorded and shared with participants, so you can return to the practices in your own time, or catch up if you cannot attend live.
Open Q&A runs throughout every session.
Sex, pleasure and the genitals are so rarely spoken about openly, and so much shame and confusion can gather in that silence. This is a precious opportunity to shine a light, and to give these parts of us, so central to our health, our pleasure and our wellbeing, the attention they deserve.
Who can join which sessions?
You are welcome to join either part regardless of your own anatomy. Whether you come to meet your own body, to understand a partner's, or simply out of curiosity, there is something here for you. Where the anatomy is not your own, you are invited to connect with the energetic part of you that has the qualities of being penetrative or receptive.
For the purposes of this offering, we are using a binary classification as a simple framework. In reality, genital anatomy is diverse and does not fit neatly into a binary classification. The anatomies presented here represent two reference points at either end of that diversity rather than the full range of human variation. This offering acknowledges that diversity, includes discussion of it, and welcomes individuals of all genital anatomies.
Going Deeper - Master Your Pleasure
Genitalversity sits in a natural relationship with Master Your Pleasure. Both explore our sex with honesty and reverence, at different depths and in different containers. If a deeper, immersive experience is calling you, this online journey is a grounded place to begin. Next Master Your Pleasure will be in Spain from 21 - 27 September 2026
Learn more about the Master Your Pleasure Retreat ->
About Elaine Yonge
Elaine has over 15 years of experience working with breath, energy, sexuality and embodiment practices with individuals internationally. Over that time she has held more than 200 residential retreats across more than 20 countries.
She created Master Your Pleasure ten years ago, and brings a decade of dedicated work with pleasure, connection to the genitals, de-armouring and arousal. She has been a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Sex Coach for thirteen years.
Drawing on somatic, tantric and shamanic lineages, integrated with nervous system awareness, she holds grounded spaces where breath, energy, pleasure and awareness meet with safety, curiosity and inner authority.
Who may this offering NOT be for at this time?
This work involves practices that may bring up challenging emotions, memories, it may increase sensation and intensity in the body, and it touches tender territory around sexuality, pleasure and personal history. Depending on where you are in your journey with your sexuality, particularly if you have a history of sexual trauma (which you have not processed with therapy/somatics) these sessions may or may not be appropriate for you at this time. If you are unsure whether this journey is right for you, please get in touch before booking.
Book your Place
Investment for this four-week Journey
Choose the full journey, or either part on its own. Early bird pricing is available until midnight on Wednesday 12 August.
Includes:
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Two or four live 2-hour sessions
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Progressive teaching, meditation and guided practice
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Open Q&A held throughout every session
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A live group experience in a carefully held online space
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Handouts with Anatomy & Touch Techniques
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Recordings of all sessions to return to at any time
Places are limited.
Book your Place
After you book, you will receive an email with everything you need for the journey
Frequently Asked Questions
Will there be any nudity or touch on camera?
No. This is primarily a solo journey, and all optional touch and exploration happens off camera. You are on camera only to listen and learn.
I have never done work like this before. Is it suitable for me?
Yes. Whether this is an initiation or a deepening of something already alive in you, you take part only to the level that feels right in the moment.
Do I need to have the anatomy being explored that week?
No. You are welcome to join either part regardless of your own body. Where the anatomy is not your own, you are invited to connect with its energetic form.
What do I need in order to participate online?
A private, undisturbed space, a computer or laptop, ideally headphones, and the items listed in "What to bring" above.
Can I join just one part?
Yes. You can take the combo four-week journey, or just Part One (Yoni/Vulva) or Part Two (Lingam/Penis) on their own.
What if I am unsure whether a health condition might be an issue with regard to attending the sessions?
Please get in touch and Elaine will be happy to help you work that out.